I am so grateful for this class and how God has used it to help me find who I am apart from my mom. I learned that I am a separate valuable individual. I now know that my mom’s narcissistic issues have nothing to do with me and that it was not my job to fix her or anyone else, for that matter. I have come to a place of acceptance, no longer looking to her for my identity or for the love that she could not give. God’s love is enough and He has proven that through the people and the facilitators in this class.
I felt a kinship with the women in the group. Our stories were not exactly the same but the effects of their relationships with their moms and/or mom figures were so similar. It was such a comfort knowing I was not alone in this, that there are others who felt as I did and who could relate to my pain. Walking through these classes and exercises with them has solidified my belief that God can provide love and healing through relationships and I need not be afraid. I am grateful for this safe place to express my hurt knowing I was understood.
The facilitators did an amazing job leading us through the process. They diverted our attention from our mother’s view of us to how God sees us – as children He loves, as the unique women that he created us to be. They helped us see who we really are, not who we were told we were by our moms who could not see us at all. I am so grateful for their insight and leadership. I know I still have work to do and it may be a long road ahead but I can walk it with hope and a belief that this is God’s path to wholeness. I would recommend this class to anyone who deals with the effects of a narcissistic mother.