I signed up for this class with great hesitancy and fear. But I signed up because the title of the reference book for the course is aptly titled, “Will I Ever Be Good Enough?” The title seemed to capture my life-long inner feeling. Once I started to read the book, I knew I was in good company as the author wrote words that could have been mine. The course facilitators were warm and very helpful. The participants of the course were awesome and I found understanding and common ground. I saw such value in them and was heartbroken for them as they shared their experiences of verbal and nonverbal messages from their narcissistic mothers. I knew I was not alone! The homework was so helpful; one particular piece of homework is now a treasure to me!
I have learned that I am not who my stepmother said I was, by her hurtful words. Nor am I defined by her lack of nurturing and parenting. I am made in God’s image, I am loveable and valuable. I was able to separate myself from her and not let her lacking and her own history continue to define who I am. I am thankful that I took this course!