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Holiday Survival Guide:  Surviving the Holidays as the Daughter of an Emotionally Absent Mother

December 9, 2024

For daughters with emotionally absent mothers, the holiday season can bring a range of complicated feelings. The cultural imagery of nurturing, supportive family gatherings contrast sharply with the experience of being raised by a mother who couldn’t offer consistent emotional warmth or support.These holiday challenges can include loneliness, guilt, frustration, and sometimes resentment over what you missed. 

Holiday Survival Guide:  Surviving the Holidays as a Motherless Daughter

November 25, 2024

Holidays can be tricky when you’re grieving a loved one, especially if that person was your mother. For a motherless daughter, this season can bring up a painful blend of nostalgia, loneliness, and even guilt. The lights and festivities that make others feel joy may leave you feeling empty or weighed down with memories. 

Holiday Grief

November 18, 2024

The holiday season is upon us and brings a series of rough rides. Surviving it when grieving is difficult but not impossible. You will make it through.

Finding Strength & Hope After Mother Loss to Suicide

November 4, 2024

Are you a motherless daughter affected by suicide? Our wish is that you can navigate this unique kind of grief, find a measure of strength and hope through my personal story and faith filled perspective.

Living Long-Term with Loss

October 21, 2024

Loss is change and change is part of life. If you stay here long enough, you will grieve the loss of someone or something in your life.

11 Important Reasons Why Memorials are Important to Honor Those We Love. 

October 7, 2024

Let’s talk about memorials. I realize we're maybe a long way from Memorial Day, but memorials are really a way of honoring those we love. Who do I honor? My mother, my grandmother, my mother-in-law, and that special woman who gave me the gift of courage when I was afraid. What about you?  Who do you honor?

I Dropped My Anchor

September 16, 2024

Years ago, I dropped my anchor in a firm foundation to get through whatever was to come in the future.

My Tears Don’t Always Mean What You Think They Do

September 2, 2024

When you see me cry, you may think I am sad or something is wrong with me.  They may mean something entirely different. What do your tears say about you?  What kind of emotions come out in your tears?

Pressing Toward What's Next

August 19, 2024

Pressing toward healing from the impact of loss is a lifelong process. It requires pushing yourself to, intentionally, find joy amidst the pain, seek help, and walk by faith.

Developing Inner Peace as Motherless Daughters 

August 5, 2024

Are you a motherless daughter seeking unshakable inner peace? Stay tuned to discover insights that will help you navigate life's challenges and find serenity that makes your walk with God filled with meaning and free of fear and worry. 

Changing the Way We Think About Ourselves 

July 22, 2024

Have you ever changed your mind about something? You were thinking one way about something but then you made 180 degree change from that way of thinking. Changing the way we think about ourselves in the face of Mother loss can be a challenging thing. You might be thinking of yourself as the daughter who lost the most important person in your life.

Looking back at my 20-year-old self

July 8, 2024

I'm going to take you on a journey back in time with me. 

• I recently had the opportunity to read the book, called the Women by Christian Hannah.The book is about nurses in Vietnam. What it did for me, though, it took me back in time. 

Leftovers

June 20, 2024

Typically, there are 3 basic options for what to do with leftovers, discard them, use them as they are, or make them into something new or different. After a loss, what is left?

10 Things to do while you are in God’s waiting Room  

June 3, 2024

This is where I am at right now.  Waiting.  Waiting. Waiting.  “God does everything right and on time.” 

Motherless Daughters in the Bible

May 20, 2024

The are hundreds of women referenced in the Bible. Many of them are not even given names. While the term “fatherless” is found, we do not find the term “motherless” in the Bible.

12 Tips for Offering Condolences for the Loss of a Mother

May 6, 2024

Losing a mother is a profound and deeply personal experience, one that leaves an indelible mark on the hearts of those who loved her. In moments of grief, it can be difficult to find the right words to express condolences and offer comfort to someone who has lost their mother. However, in these times of sorrow, it's the sincerity and warmth of our sentiments that truly matter.

Be a Point of Light

April 19, 2024

The power of people determined to make a difference is unparalleled. You have a standing invitation to join our community to get and give the powerful light of support for the healing journey.

Patience! Trust God’s perfect timing.

April 8, 2024

Habbakuk 2:3 (TLB) tell us “But these things I plan won't happen right now. Slowly settling, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient, they will not be overdue a single day.” I'm sure that you are like most people (me), you want good things to happen in your life, but too often, you want them now, not later. All of us tend to feel that way. I sure do.  

Foundations of Women's History

March 20, 2024

Women's History Month has recorded foundations that date back to the early 1900's. Today, we continue to honor and celebrate women who have influenced history.

I am privileged. Are you?

March 4, 2024

When the tasks before you look daunting refuse to be intimidated. Make the effort to replace your “I have to” mentality with a “I get to” approach. This will make all the difference in your perspective – transforming drudgery into delight.  

Do Everything with Love

February 20, 2024

"Let everything you do be done with love." That scripture comes from I Corinthians 16:14. It's the right thing to do but not always an easy task. What does the Word of God say about love?

We are here for you because we are one of you.

February 5, 2024

As long as there are motherless daughters, we are not done. Know that you do not have to be in the hole of mother loss by yourself. Whether your mother loss is due to death, emotional absence, or narcissism, the Motherless Daughters Ministry is here for you. Email us at motherlessdaughtersministry@gmail.com or find us at https://motherlessdaughtersministry.com

The One Word Challenge: Mine is Patience.  What’s yours?

January 1, 2024

The One-word challenge is when you choose a word after prayer, seeking guidance, and pausing, to focus on in the upcoming year.  Seems simple? This is the time of year we make New Year's resolutions. How many have you kept from last year?

Arm Yourself

December 19, 2023

Does navigating grief ever get easier? In answering that question, I found it imperative to arm yourself for what is ahead.

Please don’t make me wait!

December 4, 2023

Please don't make me wait. Waiting is not my strength.  I want to organize, create a plan then execute my plan.  But in Psalm 130:5, “I will wait for the Lord, I will wait expectantly and in his word I put my hope.”

Grateful in the Midst of Grief

November 21, 2023

November ushers in the holiday season and fills the air with plans for Thanksgiving Day and “Black Friday” sales. But actually, every day is a day to be grateful.

Have you ever experienced a “Come to Jesus” meeting called by Jesus?  

November 6, 2023

Well, I have, and I want to tell you, it can be scary. But it is so wonderful for Christ to be able to guide you in the direction that you need to go. The meetings are always when I wasn't doing what He equipped me to do. 

Recycling Me

October 16, 2023

Recycling is the process of converting a used item into something to be reused. The way we think about things is recycled as we figure out how to navigate the grief journey.

It's 3am, let the battles begin!

October 2, 2023

Whose voice is this? What time do does your battle begin? Discerning the voice of God.

The Real Safe Harbor

September 18, 2023

Safety is a basic human need that we experience from conception. Throughout our lives, we find solace in being able to retreat to a safe place.

God Moments. Have you seen them today?

September 4, 2023

Every day, there are things that happen to us that we just have to open our eyes and see, because we really know that God is present in everything that we do. Let’s start a new trend.  Sharing our God moments with each other.

“Rewriting our stories. God is not done with you yet.”

August 28, 2023

If your story isn't good. Just know that God is not done with you yet. If you don't feel the goodness if you don't feel the joy, God is not done with you yet. There is so much left and coming in the future.

Overwhelmed

August 21, 2023

Being overwhelmed is a state you can visit, but it is not a place you want to set up residence. Prepare ahead to avoid an ambush of emotions.

What does it mean to be a founder?  

August 7, 2023

Have you ever created something?  This comes with lots of responsibility but most important humility and obedience.  Does it belong to you since you created it?

This is God’s Ministry.  I am the Founder, but what does it mean to be a Founder? 

August 7, 2023

Have you ever created something?  This comes with lots of responsibility but most important humility and obedience.  One is knowing who is the owner.  

Filling the Gaps

July 17, 2023

What is a gap? It is a break in continuity, an unfilled space. When someone who has been a regular part of your daily schedule passes from this world their absence leaves a gap, a void. Their loss creates a drastic change in routine.

Reflections from the 2023 Journey Retreat

July 3, 2023

Each spring we offer a 4-day residential retreat for motherless daughters. We just finished the 2023 Journey Retreat and I just want to give you some insights and some aha hours and some of the wonderful ways God showed up and what we

Anxiety

June 26, 2023

What are you worried about? What are you anxious about? Have you ever heard that anxiety is like putting a down payment on a problem you may never have? Get a fresh perspective on how you are spending your time and energy. Be encouraged to replace anything that casts a shadow where there should be light. Put your efforts into things that matter and impact a positive outcome.

Riding the Merry-Go-Round

June 19, 2023

Merry-Go-Rounds have been used as an illustration for life and also for a period of time that has gotten out of control. If you have experienced a period that makes you feel overwhelmed, take some time to reconsider your response.

Is God Pursuing You?

June 5, 2023

I'm going to share with you how God chased me and pursued me until I actually understood His will.

Return to Joy – Essential Relationship Skill   

May 29, 2023

Do you know that Joy stimulates the growth of the brain systems involved in character formation, identity consolidation, and moral behavior? 

When Things Get too Heavy to Carry

May 22, 2023

What are you carrying that you can let go of?   

A New Mother's Day Option

May 15, 2023

How do you decide what to do on Mother's Day? There's a brand new option to observe the day. Regardless of how you became motherless, this option will work for you. Discover it on our website at www.motherlessdaughtersministry.com.

Is your GPS turned on?

May 1, 2023

What’s the first thing you do when you are getting in your car to go someplace when you don’t know where to go?  Turn your GPS on!

Thank You!

April 17, 2023

"Thank you" has always been the most valuable response to the countless hours of service provided through volunteerism. Support is a volunteer act that yields benefits for everyone.

Are you checked in?

April 10, 2023

Are you checked in?  Are you intentional?  Are you prayed up?  God commands us to do everything with a joyful heart.  Where do you need to check back in?

The Holy Spirit:  The AAA of the Trinity

April 3, 2023

Throughout our life, the Holy Spirit guides, directs, convicts, and walks with us.  Sometimes he uses others.  Sometimes he uses us. 

Dear Younger Me

March 27, 2023

If you experienced trauma or grief as an adolescent, what would you go back and tell your younger you?  Chances are you would be very kind, tell her how she overcame and recognize her for persevering. 

Strong From the Beginning

March 22, 2023

During Women's History Month, we celebrate strong women who have taken a stand for human rights. We can find examples from the beginning of time.

How Real God is!

March 13, 2023

Have you ever said, "God just give me a sign?" Just listen to this story and you will know the God has a plan and will show up when you least expect it.

It isn’t my fault!  

March 6, 2023

Do you wonder why things never change?  You may have said it isn’t my fault.  Maybe you have to change what you do first?    

"Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child"

February 20, 2023

This is the title of an African American Spiritual that communicates many emotions. In commemoration of Black History Month, this song serves to illustrate how art tells a story.

Heaven or Hell? 

February 6, 2023

We are meant to help each other.  What would you choose – Heaven or Hell? “That’s not a choice” you say.  Of course I would choose heaven.  Are you feeding each other that is the real question.  

Help, my brain is negative!

January 22, 2023

Believe it or not, there's scientific evidence to this statement. However, it is possible to rewire your brain. Practice by learning ways to be more positive and reap lasting emotional and physical benefits!

The Grief Roller Coaster

January 16, 2023

Sometimes up, sometimes down, and sometimes a lot of emotions at one time. There are times you may want to scream, laugh, or cry. The grief journey is much like riding a roller coaster.

Will the Pain Ever Go Away?

January 2, 2023

It all just depends on so many factors. Each woman’s loss is unique. You can not run from your grief. You must work through it. 

Your Emotional Yard

December 26, 2022

We all have an emotional yard – an emotional space.  How are you protecting your emotional haven?  Learn more about the importance of setting strong boundaries for healthy relationships.

Empathetic Grief

December 19, 2022

A personal experience with grief is a prerequisite to empathetic grieving. Highly sensitive people may not have had the experience but Can easily put themselves in another’s situation feeling all the same emotions.

Love Yourself!

December 12, 2022

With whom do you have the most conversations? The answer may surprise you!

You’re Invited to a Prayer Party. First course is a Pity Party

December 5, 2022

Holidays are hard for motherless daughters. We tend to focus on emptiness and absence.

Appreciation is Good for the Brain

November 28, 2022

Do you know that God designed our brains to operate on emotional fuel?  Today, I want to focus on Appreciation & JOY – the good emotional fuel.  

Celebrating Holidays:  Creating New Holiday Traditions!

November 7, 2022

Holidays are here.  The dread and loneliness that overwhelms a motherless daughter puts a damper on the season that we are supposed to be joyous about.  The grief is deep.  It is easy to stay in the pit.  If we have others who depend on us, we cannot stay there.  Not only the loss of a mother but sometimes dealing with difficult extended family members makes us say no thanks to any celebration, but . . .

WELCOME TO THE CLUB! -- Motherless Daughters and Breast Cancer 

October 24, 2022

When you lose a mother, you become a member of the Motherless Daughters Club, a club no one wants to belong to and yet here we are. But now, I am a member of a different club.  I heard the words that no one ever wants to hear, “You have breast cancer.” This is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  I want you to know you are not alone.  I have walked this journey.  

10 Lessons in Overcoming Obstacles and Adversity When You Are Called to do God’s Work. 

October 3, 2022

Overcoming obstacles and adversity are common for most women on their mother loss journey.  We know how difficult it can be to face the traditions and the establishment as we work through our grief and loss.  But what about when you are called to do God’s work?

Joy Tangled with Pain

September 19, 2022

Joy and pain, sunshine and rain, love and hate, good and bad. All these are opposites that are many times spoken of in the same sentence. Living with joy and pain at the same time is a paradox.

One foot in the past, one foot in the present

September 12, 2022

Knowing and understanding how to respond during period of grief can be incredibly valuable.  Whether it’s your own grief or that of someone else.

A Generational Curse of Dysfunction and Codependency

September 5, 2022

Dysfunction is rooted in generations. Seldom does dysfunction begin in the present but we can trace it in our history.

A Tribe of Women

August 22, 2022

God calls us to lift up others. He calls us to be connected. This is what the Motherless Daughters Ministry is about!

We Got Your 6

August 15, 2022

Recently, I saw a television news report about "Got Your 6." This was my first time hearing the phrase, but now, I totally understand it.

Sharing my Testimony with you.  

August 1, 2022

“If you can?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes.  Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” Mark 9:23-24.  How God healed me and equipped me to start the Motherless Daughters Ministry. 

How are your relationships?

July 25, 2022

Our world view can change how we choose to see people. Without appropriate levels of emotional intelligence, our lens through which we view others can become distorted. How do you choose to see others?

What is the lens through which you view others? 

July 18, 2022

Social Awareness

Do you have a story you need to rewrite about someone else?

Having great levels of social awareness can help us see others differently.  Social awareness helps us to build a solid foundation for our relationships.  How solid is your foundation?

Self-Management

July 11, 2022

The ability to practice self-management is critical in healthy relationships. How adept are your self-management skills?

Are you Self-Aware?

July 4, 2022

Great levels of emotional intelligence can have a tremendous impact on our grief journey!

An Ocean Of Grief

June 27, 2022

Grief can send us into unknown waters where we are likely to experience the greatest depths of pain and sorrow. God is always there and will never fail us - even when we fail Him!

What's Father Got to Do With It?

June 20, 2022

Like our “mother” stories, each of us has a “father” story. And the stories are as varied as the individuals who share them. For every story, there are variables that create an even more unique situation.

What are the pebbles in your shoe?

June 13, 2022

Muhammad Ali said, “It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe.” 

In June, we celebrate fathers.  Fathers play such a critical role in our development into womanhood.  

June 6, 2022

Fathers teach us how to have a relationship with a man. Fathers teach us so many things.  Father’s Day can also trigger us.  

Boundaries - What if the other person doesn't respect my boundaries?

May 30, 2022

In the last video on boundaries, learn what how to respond when the other party isn’t respectful of your boundaries.  You are still in control and only you are responsible for your own happiness.

God says, “I’m coming. Are you?”

May 23, 2022

Trusting God in times of doubt is a real test of faith.  So many obstacles were presented to us prior to the Journey Retreat.  Doubt, uncertainty, Covid, Airline travel, gas prices.  Should we or shouldn’t we?  Stay tuned for the rest of the story.  

Getting Through Mother's Day

May 18, 2022

For Mother's Day, the retail industry licks its chops and feverishly prepares to receive all the money people are willing to spend on gifts, food, cards, and flowers to express what boils down to a simple "Thank you!" But what about those who may not have a good relationship with their mother or have no fond memories. There's a lesser-known side to the holiday.

Video 3 - Boundary Setting

May 9, 2022

Video 3 on Boundary Setting:  Knowing how to begin.

Do you struggle with figuring out how to start something?  This is often the place where most struggle as it seems too overwhelming or challenging.  Watch now to learn 4 steps to discover how you begin to set healthy boundaries.

Touching the Center of My Pain

May 2, 2022

Like a searing coal, burning with pain, sorrow sits before us and dares us to touch it. It glares and sneers, challenging us to come close.  Keep that door closed? Or will you help me touch the center of my pain?

Video 2 on Boundaries

April 26, 2022

Uncovering the 5 steps toward setting boundaries.  How does this tie in with Stewardship?

Furry Therapy for Grief

April 18, 2022

There are different types of therapy, but it is said the best therapy has fur and four legs.

Boundaries 101

April 11, 2022

Do you struggle with boundaries?  Do you know how to set them and more importantly maintain healthy boundaries?  If you’re like me and you struggle, please join me as we discuss the myths of boundary setting in this multi-series video.

Digging in the Dirt: Planting the Garden of YOU

April 4, 2022

In the spring time, the world begins to change.  New growth is visible everywhere.  The birds sing, trees burst from buds to blooms.  The grass is greener.  Bushes grow. It is time to begin getting ready for your spring garden. The Garden of YOU!

Not As

March 28, 2022

Have you fallen into a trap of “Not as?”  Not as good, not as smart, not as thin … Listen to hear more.

Women, Survivors From the Beginning

March 21, 2022

Women have shown themselves to be survivors from the very beginning of time. Since this is Women's History Month we need to pay homage to those who have paved the way before us.

It Is Well With My Soul

March 7, 2022

Is It Well With Your Soul?  In the midst of heavy burden, where do you turn?  Do you seek the Lord in all situations, not just the heavy and burdensome ones?  I pray you can be rest assured that It is, in fact, well with your soul.

Do you know why God made rutabagas?

February 28, 2022

I want to share a story with you about rutabagas. God uses everything, even rutabagas to make His presence known. Don’t ever think God won’t use you. He will and He will have you touch people in a way that only you can do. I know this.

Love Wrapped in Challenges

February 21, 2022

Those who really love you will take the risk to challenge you. They risk your being angry at them for telling you the things that are difficult to hear.

What's Love Got To Do With It?

February 14, 2022

Tina Turner belted out a number one hit asking "what's love got to do with it?" Find out more by listening to this week's video about what love has to do with life; also, gain a different perspective on how love ties in with our grief.

Where’s your shovel?

February 7, 2022

Sometimes it is just hard to dig through life’s daily mountains of manure.  Finding the pony is a challenge.  Start your own personal pony campaign!

The Journey to Acceptance

January 31, 2022

The final stage of the grief process, according to the Kubler-Ross model, is acceptance. The journey to get there can be long and difficult.

Choosing Courage Over Comfort

January 24, 2022

Are you on a journey of healing?  Do you struggle with being vulnerability and sharing your story? Hear from Johnda Buck, MDM Board of Directors Vice Chair, as she talks about the importance of choosing courage of comfort.

Managing Life Without Mom

January 17, 2022

"If, at first, you don't succeed, try and try again." As a motherless daughter, it takes effort to learn to manage a life without mother. The solution may include a combination of resources.

Relationship Difficulties as a Motherless Daughter

January 10, 2022

Johnda Buck shares her perspective on why it's difficult to establish and maintain relationships as a motherless daughter. When you've experienced loss, emotional absence, or are raised by a narcissistic parent, it has a tremendous impact on your development even into adulthood. Do you have difficulty with relationships? If so, find out more.

Facing Your Lions

January 3, 2022

In the Bible, 1st Peter 5:8 tells us that the enemy prowls like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Your past is like a lion. It will stalk you.  Never turn your back on a lion. Never turn your back on your past. 

Living with Intention: the story of the dash

December 27, 2021

Let's speak to the importance of living with intentionality and living your dash. Do you live on auto pilot or are living intentionally? Hear from Johnda Buck, MDM Board of Directors member, as she talks about the story of the dash during this 4M4U.

The Perfect Gift

December 20, 2021

As we move through the holiday season, everyone begins to focus on gifts. Just what is the perfect gift? What can I give to those I care about that they will treasure and enjoy?

Emotionally Absent Mothers or Narcissistic Mothers

December 12, 2021

Even if your mother loss was due to an emotional absent mother or a narcissistic mother; God made you and He loves each one of you.

What is Your Anchor?

December 6, 2021

In turbulent times our life gets disrupted. Our routine schedule is turned upside down. Our usual methods of maintaining control don't work. What keeps you steady? What is your anchor?

Positive Affirmations - We all need them!

November 29, 2021

Do you ever say/think them to support yourself or others that you know? What a way to support and encourage others, try it-it works!

40 days of Prayer for Motherless Daughters all over the world.

November 22, 2021

The holidays are just around the corner.  Not an easy time when you are grieving the loss or absence of a mother.   Join me in praying for each other during these holidays. 

What Do You Mean, "Move On?"

November 15, 2021

Fairly often, you can hear someone make the statement that one who is grieving needs to "move on." Just exactly what do they mean by the comment?

Fruits of the Spirit

November 8, 2021

Gifts which are blessings or abilities given by God through the Holy Spirit. Come explore these 9 gifts and see which ones you possess.

SELF CARE IS IMPORTANT

November 1, 2021

Self-help does not have to take long, cost a lot, or be extravagant. 2021 This year has flown by; have you been taking care of yourself? Many times, we put self-care at the end of our to-do lists. Come hear some ideas that can get you started

Sudden Loss and Anticipated Loss: What's the Difference?

October 25, 2021

Mother Loss is not just mother loss.  While the loss binds us together, there are differences.  How does the type of loss affect us?  Now and over time?

Teach Them to Help

October 19, 2021

"If there's anything I can do for you, just let me know." That's a phrase we hear all the time. It is a statement sincerely given from the heart, but how are we to respond when we are numb with grief? How do we deal with this dilemma?

10 Tips for a successful first meeting. This is Step 6 for starting a Motherless Daughters Group.

October 11, 2021

How exciting!  You have defined your purpose, you have thoughtfully written and practiced your story, you created a strong foundation, you have found others to join you, you have found a location.  NOW IT IS SHOWTIME.  Your first meeting.  Let me give 10 tips on getting ready for success!

Traveling our mother loss journey at times needs help from others

October 4, 2021

Support can come from family, friends, church members, grief groups, counselors, or others. Don’t be afraid to ask, don’t try it alone!  Reach out to others that care about you.

Respect -- The untold story of a motherless daughter

September 25, 2021

Have you seen the movie Respect?    Just a little bit.  Just a little bit.  R-E-S-P-E-C-T!  No one can move me like Aretha.  In my younger years, I did not know her story.  Her life.  Her pain.  How much we are connected.  Aretha Franklin was a motherless daughter.

Designer's Original

September 20, 2021

The grief journey you are traveling is unique to your experience. However, there are many aspects of mother loss that create a large community of people who understand your journey.

6 ways to overcome battles, obstacles, fear and struggles

September 13, 2021

Battles obstacles, fears and struggles are real and try to overwhelm each of us. They make us feel worthless, like failures, or get us angry.

Starting A Motherless Daughter group Step 5-- Finding Others to Join You

September 6, 2021

Where do you find other motherless daughters?  Anywhere you are, look to the left, look to the right, look in front of you, look behind you.  One of these people has a story of mother loss.  You just don’t know it. 

Hope, what is it, what does it do for us?

August 30, 2021

Come and hear how important hope is to our daily outlook on life!

Wake Up Calls from God

August 23, 2021

How does God get your attention?  Shoulder Taps or Nudges?  Sometimes it is in my sleep that He nudges me to act.   What gets your attention?

Struggling to Catch up

August 16, 2021

It takes time for the heart to accept what the head knows and has seen.

That acknowledgement was a perfect description for me.

Support Is Needed By Everyone

August 7, 2021

Who supports you, come listen to support for your mother-loss journey.

Starting a Motherless Daughters Group? Step 3 – Telling Your Story

July 31, 2021

We each have a story to tell. • Our life’s experience – our book—so many chapters. • Think about your story and how you would share it with someone else. • Watch this video to the end. There is a special bonus for you. • Plus free coaching calls starting the week of the second week of August.

Slow Down or Go Fast? 5 Tips to help you decide.

July 24, 2021

We make mistakes when we go too fast. But there are times you need to go fast. How do you make that decision? Did you know emotions block your ability to think? Why are you afraid to slow down?

Container Or Conduit

July 19, 2021

It's comfortable to be a container, but the greater charge is to be a conduit. Which one are you?

Secure attachment with our mom sets the stage on how we view other relationships in our life

July 11, 2021

Did you feel safe, secure, loved, and protected, if not maybe she was emotionally absent

Starting a Motherless Daughters Group? Step 2 -- Choosing a Firm Foundation: Faith-based or Not?

July 3, 2021

Interested in gathering a group of motherless daughters together? Would you like the support of others who have walked in your shoes? Join me as I share with you some important steps I have learned to get started. Every strong building has a firm foundation. What foundation will you choose? Watch this video to the end. There is a special bonus for you.

Sssh! Lessons in the Silence

June 26, 2021

We often think that Leadership Development has been developed in recent years. But here is what I discovered -- 21 Leadership Lessons from Nehemiah the Prophet in the bible!

Stripped & Empty

June 21, 2021

The grief journey can leave you stripped and empty of everything you thought was normal for you. It is possible to work through this season of your life. You are not alone.

Believing in yourself and the God who loves you is so important

June 12, 2021

Come listen to words, that encourage you to believe!

So you want to start a Motherless Daughters Group? Let’s get started. Step 1—Defining Your Purpose

June 9, 2021

Interested in gathering a group of motherless daughters together? Would you like the support of others who have walked in your shoes? Join me as I share with you some important steps I have learned to get started. Watch this video to the end. There is a special bonus for you.

Graveside Visits

June 2, 2021

To visit or not to visit; that is the question. There are a number of things you will want to consider when making that decision.

What does it mean to have an Emotionally Absent Mother

May 23, 2021

Did your mother nurture, care, protect, and love you? Did she keep you safe? If not, maybe your mother was emotionally absent? Come hear what you didn't realize.

The Grief Sandwich

May 17, 2021

The term "sandwich generation" became popular in the 1980's and described a growing portion of the population. But there is a version of this sandwich that no one wants.

The Incredible Power of Touch: What Every Motherless Daughter Craves

May 8, 2021

Holding your emotions close is a survival technique. If people don’t know, they can’t hurt you. Are you alone with your emotions?

Withstanding the Difficult Winds of Life, We All Have Them!

May 1, 2021

How do you withstand the winds of life? Come listen to ways to manage those difficult times.

Thank You

April 26, 2021

“Thank you” is a short phrase, but it’s one that is used far too little. A simple "thank you" can be worth more than money.

ManagingPain20210418

April 19, 2021

Grief is exhausting, physically and emotionally and the pain is deep. Typically, we try to avoid the pain. How do you manage it?

We All Value Something, What Is On Your List?

April 10, 2021

Come list to what Motherless Daughters Ministry Values

Dare to Commit?

April 4, 2021

“People become great when they commit to something bigger than themselves.”

What are you committed to? Want to be great?

Helping others

March 25, 2021

Who Do You Help? How Do You Decide What To Do?

The Obesity of Grief

March 20, 2021

We are fat with loss. As I waddle through the day, grief has become my go-to food of choice. I layer grief upon grief creating a Jenga puzzle that teeters on collapse. How many calories are in a layer of grief? Can it really be that fattening? Do we need to go on a grief diet?

An Imaginary Revolving Door

March 15, 2021

"Be prepared" is the motto of scouting organizations around the world. But we are never prepared for grieving the loss of one very close to us.

Supporting others when they are grieving the death of a loved one

March 8, 2021

Do you wonder what they need now, or in months to come?

Celebrating Our Black Motherless Sisters who braved a voyage to the new world without a choice.

February 27, 2021

We need to honor their bravery and their stories. African slave women were brought to this country against their will. They were captives. And yet they survived. They thrived. Hear those voices,

BLESSINGS

February 19, 2021

Can you list 20 blessings that you have? It’s not as hard as you think.

Level Ground

February 15, 2021

"The ground is level at the foot of the cross." Today, I would like to suggest another ending to that phrase.

Masks hide us. What masks are you wearing?

February 7, 2021

Masks are a part of our present reality but we have always worn masks. We hide behind masks. They serve as a barrier for you to see me. What are your masks hiding behind? Are they real?

Compounded Grief

February 1, 2021

Each additional loss we experience triggers memories of a previous loss.

The Lord is there for us always.

January 24, 2021

When do you go to God, in the good or bad times?

A Letter to Your Younger Self

January 17, 2021

What would you have liked your younger self to have known?

Change Happens Every Day

January 10, 2021

Do You see CHANGE as a Challenge or an Obstacle?

2020 A Year for the Record Books

January 2, 2021

2020 What a year we have experienced? Listen to how to handle 2021

Jesus is the Reason for the Season

December 27, 2020

Motherless Daughters Ministry was created to support all motherless daughters no matter what faith. We respect individual differences. We are a community.

Emotional Triggers

December 19, 2020

Every Holiday, emotional flashes can appear out of thin air, taking your breath away, causing tears to run down your face, leaving you with the thought: “Where did that come from”? What just happened. It is important to recognize what just happened, where did that emotional expression come from? Here is an example: you are going to bake a cake for the holidays and as you beat the ingredients the smell of the batter brings back thoughts of when your mother taught you to bake that recipe for the first time. BOOM you are right back missing her as if her death was yesterday.

Emotions Can Control you

December 12, 2020

Emotions can control your life, especially when dealing with grief, let me tell you some steps that I have used to regulate my emotions when dealing with strong painful times in my life.

Stuck Part 10 – Mother Loss in your 60s. Losing a mother and losing a child.

December 5, 2020

When a 60’s woman loses her mother, we see this as a normal life transition. “After all, your mother is probably in her 80s, isn’t it normal for her to die?” My response to this is, “Yes, but . . . “

Stuck Part 9: Mother Loss in your 50s -- A Time of Transition, Change, and Loss

November 28, 2020

During the 50s, the keywords for women to embrace are transition and change. Everything in your life, as you have known it, is changing.

And with each change comes the loss of what was. You must grieve each loss. You must grieve for the old before you can embrace the new. Most women seldom do this. Grieving is necessary to move on with one’s life.

Stuck Part 8: Mother Loss in the 40s – Plagued by Loneliness, Regret, and Loss of Identity

November 21, 2020

The 40s motherless daughter has spent so much of her waking hours on life demands, she has hardly had time to create true relationships. Her mother's relationship may be the only one she has had time for. As a 40s woman, your challenges are much like the 30s but accelerated. Everything is magnified.

Stuck: Part 7 – Mother Loss in your 30s – Feeling Guilt and Regret

November 14, 2020

If you experienced mother loss in your 30s, Do you feel -- guilty, alone, regretful, and scared. Your 30s is a time of new roles, new priorities, more time demands, more commitment to your new career, your employer, your significant other, your family and on and on. The 30s woman is stretched s-o-o-o-o-o thin she is exhausted.

Stuck – Part 6: Mother Loss in the 20s – Most Overlooked and Misunderstood Motherless Daughter.

November 7, 2020

Your 20s are all about being on your own, freedom! But you still need to see home. But where is it?

“I felt like a ship set adrift, lost, without a way to steer and I could not see land.”

Stuck: Part 4 – Mother Loss as an adolescent

October 24, 2020

Mother loss during these years experiences the most human emotional developmental challenges. Adolescence is all about getting a balance. If you experienced mother loss when you were in the 13-18-year-old age group, your developmental tasks were challenged. In what ways does this affect you today and what can you do about it?

STUCK: Part 3 -- Is it my fault? Losing a Mother when you are 6-12 years old.

October 18, 2020

If you were 6-12 year old when you experienced mother loss, do think it is your fault? Do you think you made it happen? In what ways does this affect you today and what can you do about it? Psychologists tell us these women who experienced loss in this age group have the hardest time as adults. What about you?

STUCK: Part 2 – Can I trust anyone? Mother Loss at age of 0-6 years old.

October 10, 2020

Did you experience mother loss when you from birth to age 6 years old 0-6 age? How does your age of loss affect you today as an adult?

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Stuck: Part I Age of Loss and Stage of Emotional Development

October 4, 2020

Do you know that The age when you experienced mother loss affects you today as an adult? There is a basic formula that lends insight into how we function as adults and how our mother's loss influences who we are today. Want to know the formula? A copy of the formula appears on https://www.motherlessdaughtersministry.com/

Stuck part 5 – Growing Up is Hard to do -- The individuation process

October 3, 2020

What happens when you lose a mother before your late teens? The individuation process stops. You may be emotionally stuck. Regardless of whether the mother-daughter relationship has been either extremely positive or particularly difficult. You can grow up to be a fully functioning adult but when you are triggered emotionally, your emotional reactions will go back to your age of loss.

The Haunting Voices of Narcissism

September 26, 2020

Do you hear voices? I do. I am not crazy. They are voices from my past. Narcissists who haunt me to this day. I know who they are. They are my inner critics. If you have had narcissistic personalities in your life, you will understand how the tapes continue to play long after the person is gone.

You can't fix it!

September 19, 2020

Calling all men who are in a relationship or married to a motherless daughter! I want to talk with you. You may feel powerless. You want to fix it but you can’t. So what can you do to help and not hinder?

Freeing Yourself – 8 lessons on Forgiveness!

September 12, 2020

Forgiveness is needed more today than ever. Forgiveness does not mean the other person is right. It is freeing yourself, Where and When did you learn forgiveness?

The Neon Year—3 ways to get through it and beyond it!

September 6, 2020

When you are approaching the same age as your mother was when you lost her, it happens. The Neon Year. No, you are not crazy. You are normal and you will get through this. What you can do to navigate this time in your life?

They Just Don't Get IT! 6 ways to cope when they don’t get it.

August 30, 2020

How often does this happen to you? You begin to share or want to share about your mother loss only to be ignored or the conversation gets stops or changes?

The Cycle of Grief of Mother Loss

August 22, 2020

It never goes away—the scars of Mother loss. It sneaks up on us like a thief in the night and wham! We are transported back in time. I am checking what the day holds, I look at the date. In a snap, I am in tears. Why am I suddenly weeping? I know. My mother died on this date over 50 years ago. Hasn’t it been long enough?

Don't Cuss at God

August 16, 2020

Ever think God is punishing you? Ever yell at God? I want to share with you my story of doing just that. Just know that when God calls you to do something, don’t second guess Him even if it seems ridiculous!

A Punch in the Gut

August 9, 2020

When did you receive a verbal punch in the gut and what did you learn from it? Let me share with you the BIG lesson I learned the hard way.

FEAR-- Face Everything and Run or Rise?

August 2, 2020

Life today is so uncertain with the invisible enemy, the coronavirus, lurking and waiting to attack. We did not choose this. The last 4 and ½ months have been fear driven. We cannot turn on the TV without hearing gloom and doom. How do you do face fear in such uncertainty? 3 things to do each day to rise!

Recovery: Possible But Not Easy

July 27, 2020

Will ever recover from losing my mom? I don't have 5 easy steps, but there are some things I do know.

The Flip Side of Asking For Help

July 20, 2020

Don't Want to Ask For Help, Why?

Part II -- Standing Still, Looking In, Looking Out, Reaching Out

July 13, 2020

There does comes a time when you need to just stand still. Stop! And smell the coffee.

Let me share 3 things I found helpful in taking the first step to move into a healing state.

Part I - Standing Still to Move Forward

July 6, 2020

inspiring you to pick up your emotional foot for the 1st step to your future without your mom.

God calls us to minister to others!

June 22, 2020

We can all minister to others. Neighbors, friends, strangers all need encouragement, support, and listening heart. Learn how you can be there for others.

Believe it or not, YOU are not alone! We are here for all of you!

June 15, 2020

Motherless Daughters, that's who we are. Are you one? Does anyone encourage you? Where does your support come from? Do you know that Motherless Daughters Ministry supports thousands of women all over the world?

Triggers that stop Motherless Daughters in their tracks!

June 8, 2020

What is a trigger? What does it do to us? One moment you are fine, the next tears are running down your face. I am going to share my emotional triggers and how it affects me. Tell me what triggers you have experienced.

Families are more than your blood relatives!

June 1, 2020

Think about the individuals that aren't related to you but have loved you and your them throughout your lifetime. If those people exist in your life you are blessed.

Did you know you can have mother loss without mother death?

June 1, 2020

There are many ways to be a motherless daughter. Some have decreased mothers, some have living mothers. As a motherless daughter, we have many different and many similar stories. Some have lost a mother through death, some have experienced emotional absence, some have experienced mothers who have (had) narcissistic characteristics. All of us are motherless daughters.

Hope in the Time of Grief

May 25, 2020

Do we need it? Where do we find it? Is it important? What if we can't find it? 8 Ways to find hope.